Saturday, January 5, 2013
Making Peace With The Mirror!
Today, while walking to my car in a parking lot, a young man whistled at me and then yelled something at me stating that he liked a certain part of my body. Completely inappropriate but, as a soon-to-be 35-year-old woman with three kids, a little part of me liked that a stranger didn't find me completely repulsive! I shared this incident with my best friend and made a joke about how the young man must need glasses. She didn't find my joke funny. I also shared it with another bestie of mine who responded by rolling her eyes. This friend is constantly calling me "hot mama" and is a great self esteem booster. She always tells me she loves my hair or that I'm pretty--well, just being called "hot mama" on a regular basis by your friend will make one smile. LOL My best friend is constantly telling me that she thinks I'm gorgeous and wishes I could see myself the way others see me. I have thought about their reactions some today and came to this conclusion: It's time to make peace with the mirror. By doing that I would, in turn, have to make peace with myself, right?
In an earlier post I stated that I was going to accept myself. My best friend has already taken the liberty of reminding me of that post. I have read about women going on a mirror fast. That is all well and good but what happens when, one day, your fast is over and you find yourself, once again, looking at your reflection. The mirror isn't the problem--it's merely a piece of glass. The way we see ourselves is the problem. And for me, it IS a problem. I never leave the house thinking, "I look so good!" I leave the house thinking, "I guess I look okay." And, honestly, I'm more than happy to go through the day without one person noticing me.
So, I have decided to make peace with my mirror. I know these two amazing friends aren't going to leave me alone until I do. My husband agrees with them and is constantly telling me that I'm "mean" to myself because I don't look in the mirror and see a pretty woman staring back at me. I just see . . . me. I may not be on the cover of magazines but lets be honest, how many women really are? It's time to look in the mirror and see myself the way those closest to me see me.
It's time to make peace with the mirror . . .
. . . and with myself.